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Blog category · Sex therapy
Resources on sex therapy
Articles from Ocnos Psychology Clinic to better understand desire, intimacy, sexual anxiety, emotional blocks and the difficulties that can appear in sexual life, both individually and within a relationship.
No judgement, no taboo
Clear clinical information to talk about sexuality with respect, care and naturalness.
Individual and couples
Resources to understand sexual difficulties through the body, emotion, the relationship and personal history.
Intimate wellbeing
Content aimed at understanding, not blaming or reducing the difficulty to an isolated symptom.
The aim of this category: to offer useful and clinically responsible resources for individuals and couples who want to understand what may be happening when sexual anxiety, loss of desire, performance pressure, shame, difficulty enjoying intimacy or intimate distress appear.
Sex therapy is not about forcing quick solutions. It helps us understand the role of anxiety, self-pressure, communication, the couple’s relationship, the body and previous experiences in the way sexuality is experienced.
What you will find here
Sexuality, anxiety, intimacy and psychological wellbeing
In this category we bring together content on sex therapy written from a healthcare, respectful and non-judgemental perspective. The aim is to help you put words to difficulties that are often lived in silence, with shame, or with the feeling that they “should resolve themselves”.
Having a sexual difficulty does not mean there is something “wrong” with you. It may be related to anxiety, previous experiences, insecurity, pressure, relationship conflict, life changes, fear of judgement, the sexual education received or bodily disconnection. Understanding the context is often the first step towards approaching it with more calm.
Clinical team
Content written from general health psychology
Ocnos resources are created from a clinical, careful and person-centred perspective. Articles can provide orientation, but they do not replace an individual psychological assessment.
Héctor Lozano Jiménez
General Health Psychologist · Director of Ocnos Psychology Clinic
Registered with COPAO AN11777
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Rocío Rodríguez Boza
General Health Psychologist
Registered with COPAO AN13748
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María Ángeles Sanz Ruiz
General Health Psychologist
Registered with COPAO AN12933
View professional profileTopics we will be covering
- What sex therapy is and when it may be useful.
- Sexual anxiety, emotional blocks and fear of performance.
- Difficulties with desire, arousal, pleasure and intimacy.
- Shame, fear of judgement, insecurity and self-pressure.
- Sexual communication within the couple and difficulty expressing needs.
- How the body, anxiety and personal history influence sexuality.
- Individual sex therapy, couples sex therapy and sex therapy for couples.
- Intimate wellbeing, bodily reconnection and recovery of safety.
An intimate difficulty does not define the person
Many sexual difficulties continue because they are lived with pressure, silence or shame. A psychological approach allows the situation to be viewed more broadly: not only what happens, but when it appears, what triggers it, how it is interpreted, which emotions it activates and how it affects self-esteem or the relationship.
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Sexuality can intersect with anxiety, mood, the couple’s relationship, communication, personal history and the way the body is experienced.
Clinical guidance
Understanding before demanding quick solutions
In sex therapy the aim is not to impose goals or measure the person by their performance. The work focuses on understanding the difficulty, reducing pressure, improving communication and recovering a safer relationship with the body, desire and intimacy.
Sexual anxiety
When anticipation, fear of failing or bodily monitoring block the intimate experience.
Desire and intimacy
Desire can change because of stress, tiredness, conflict, emotional distance or accumulated pressure.
Body and pleasure
Psychological work can help reduce shame, disconnection or body-related insecurity.
Communication
Talking about sexuality with care can reduce tension and support more realistic agreements.
Anxiety and blocking
Anxiety can influence desire, arousal, body connection and the ability to experience intimacy calmly.
Individual or as a couple
Intervention can be carried out individually or with the partner, depending on the difficulty, context and therapeutic goals.
Intimacy and the bond
When sexuality intersects with the couple’s relationship, communication, trust, safety and emotional closeness may need to be addressed.
Clinical note
When it may be helpful to ask for support
It may be useful to seek help when the difficulty continues over time, creates anticipatory anxiety, affects self-esteem, limits intimacy, leads to avoidance, worsens communication within the couple or is experienced with suffering. Therapy helps to understand the problem and build gradual changes, not to judge the person.
This information may help you orientate yourself, but it does not replace a professional assessment. If there are physical symptoms, pain, sudden changes, medical concerns or possible medication side effects, it is also important to consult the relevant healthcare professional. At Ocnos we work on the psychological and relational component of sexual difficulties from a confidential and respectful space.
Reviews
Trust is also part of psychological care
In intimate matters, feeling heard without judgement is especially important. Patient reviews can help you understand how psychological care is experienced at Ocnos Psychology Clinic.
Resources on sex therapy written from clinical practice
This category will continue to grow with articles on sexual anxiety, desire, intimacy, communication, individual sex therapy, sex therapy for couples and intimate wellbeing. If you need professional guidance, you can book a first appointment at Ocnos Psychology Clinic.
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